Acknowledgments |
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Preface |
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There Are Children to Adopt |
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2 | (1) |
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3 | (1) |
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3 | (1) |
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What Kind of Child Do You Want? |
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4 | (1) |
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What Route Do You Want to Take? |
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4 | (1) |
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Moving from Infertility to Adoption |
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5 | (1) |
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When Infertility Is Not the Issue |
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6 | (1) |
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Are You Ready to Accept Parenthood Through Adoption? |
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7 | (2) |
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What Are Your Reasons for Wanting a Child? |
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9 | (2) |
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11 | (20) |
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12 | (1) |
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12 | (1) |
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Public Agency Adoption: Pros and Cons |
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13 | (1) |
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State- and Federally-Funded Private Agencies |
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14 | (1) |
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15 | (1) |
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Private Agencies That Place Infants |
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15 | (1) |
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16 | (1) |
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Facilitated Agency Adoption |
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17 | (1) |
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17 | (1) |
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Identified Agency Adoption |
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18 | (1) |
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Why Consider an Identified Adoption? |
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19 | (1) |
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Identified Adoption: Some Disadvantages |
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20 | (2) |
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Is an Identified Adoption for You? |
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22 | (1) |
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When an Agency Turns You Down |
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23 | (1) |
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Adoptive Parents' Rights: Getting All the Information |
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23 | (1) |
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Private Agencies: What to Look Out For |
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24 | (2) |
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Contracting with an Agency: What to Ask |
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26 | (3) |
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Investigating an Agency's Reputation |
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29 | (2) |
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31 | (14) |
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The Independent Adoption Process |
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32 | (3) |
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Why Pursue an Independent Adoption? |
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35 | (3) |
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Independent Adoption: Some Disadvantages |
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38 | (1) |
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Is an Independent Adoption for You? |
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39 | (2) |
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Independent Adoption: One Couple's Story |
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41 | (4) |
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Choosing an Adoption Attorney |
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45 | (8) |
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46 | (1) |
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The Attorney as Intermediary |
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47 | (1) |
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Your Attorney's Role in a Domestic or International Agency Adoption |
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48 | (1) |
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Putting Together a Portfolio: A Quick Overview |
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49 | (4) |
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53 | (30) |
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54 | (2) |
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56 | (5) |
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Business Cards and Filters |
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61 | (1) |
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61 | (4) |
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65 | (2) |
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Where Should You Advertise? |
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67 | (2) |
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Internet Adoption Services |
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69 | (3) |
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Setting Up a Telephone Line (``Baby Phone'') |
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72 | (2) |
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Searching for a Birth Mother: One Couple's Story |
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74 | (9) |
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Who Are Birth Mothers, Fathers, and Grandparents? |
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83 | (8) |
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83 | (1) |
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Predicting the Likelihood of Placement |
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84 | (2) |
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86 | (1) |
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87 | (1) |
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88 | (3) |
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91 | (10) |
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What to Tell Her, What to Ask |
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91 | (3) |
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94 | (2) |
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96 | (1) |
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Supporting a Birth Mother Emotionally |
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97 | (1) |
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Supporting a Birth Mother Financially |
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97 | (2) |
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Relating to More than One Birth Mother |
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99 | (2) |
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Birth Fathers and Their Rights |
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101 | (6) |
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Putative Father Registries |
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101 | (1) |
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102 | (2) |
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104 | (3) |
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107 | (20) |
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Is Open Adoption for You? |
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107 | (1) |
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Open Adoption: Advantages |
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108 | (1) |
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Open Adoption: Disadvantages |
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109 | (1) |
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110 | (1) |
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110 | (1) |
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111 | (3) |
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Searching for Birth Families |
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114 | (3) |
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How Are Searches Conducted? |
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117 | (1) |
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118 | (1) |
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What About International Adoption? |
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119 | (1) |
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Contacting a Birth Relative |
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120 | (1) |
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Legal Aspects of Searching |
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120 | (7) |
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Special-Families: Special Considerations |
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127 | (16) |
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127 | (1) |
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128 | (1) |
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Options for Single Parents |
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129 | (2) |
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131 | (1) |
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Unique Challenges for Single Men |
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131 | (3) |
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Adoption for Gays and Lesbians |
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134 | (2) |
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Adoption for Unmarried Couples |
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136 | (1) |
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136 | (7) |
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Relative and Stepparent Adoption |
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143 | (16) |
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144 | (6) |
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150 | (9) |
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159 | (70) |
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International Adoption: Advantages |
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159 | (2) |
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International Adoption: Disadvantages |
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161 | (3) |
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164 | (1) |
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165 | (3) |
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168 | (14) |
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Who Conducts Your Adoption? |
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182 | (1) |
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International Agency Adoption |
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182 | (1) |
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Child-Placement Entities and Attorneys |
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183 | (1) |
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Parent-Initiated International Adoption |
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184 | (1) |
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Getting Through the Paperwork |
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185 | (7) |
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192 | (4) |
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When a Child Is Assigned to You/Selecting a Child |
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196 | (5) |
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Why Do So Many Families Want to Adopt a Girl? |
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201 | (1) |
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Deciding to Adopt More than One Child |
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202 | (1) |
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Adopting Two Children of Nearly the Same Age |
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203 | (1) |
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204 | (2) |
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After a Child Is Assigned to You |
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206 | (1) |
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207 | (6) |
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Issues Related to Having International Children |
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213 | (1) |
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214 | (1) |
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Adopting a Child in Another Country |
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215 | (2) |
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Your Child Is Home: What You Need to Do |
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217 | (2) |
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Adopting Your Child in the United States |
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219 | (2) |
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Obtaining Citizenship for Your Child |
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221 | (1) |
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222 | (1) |
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223 | (1) |
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Adoption for Americans Living Overseas |
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224 | (5) |
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A Brief Overview of Canadian Adoption |
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229 | (14) |
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229 | (1) |
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An Overview of Domestic and International Adoption in Canada |
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229 | (1) |
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Private Domestic Adoptions in Brief |
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230 | (1) |
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Provincial Rules and Regulations |
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231 | (1) |
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232 | (1) |
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Countries from Which Canadians Frequently Adopt |
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233 | (5) |
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Adopting a Child from the United States |
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238 | (1) |
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239 | (4) |
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243 | (12) |
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Why Toddlers Are Available |
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243 | (2) |
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Toddlers Through Private Adoption |
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245 | (1) |
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246 | (4) |
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250 | (1) |
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Older Siblings and Toddlers |
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250 | (1) |
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251 | (1) |
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Adopting More than One Toddler |
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251 | (4) |
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255 | (56) |
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256 | (12) |
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Advantages of Special Needs Adoption |
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268 | (1) |
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Disadvantages of Special Needs Adoption |
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269 | (2) |
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271 | (3) |
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How to Adopt a Child with Special Needs |
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274 | (4) |
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278 | (2) |
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The Legal Risks of Special Needs Adoption |
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280 | (1) |
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280 | (3) |
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Adopting by Special Needs Category |
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283 | (2) |
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Adoption Networks or Exchanges |
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285 | (6) |
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291 | (2) |
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Special Needs Adoption Subsidies |
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293 | (11) |
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Preparing for Your Special Needs Child |
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304 | (2) |
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The Child's Arrival at Your Home |
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306 | (2) |
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Talking to Your Child about Adoption and His/Her Past |
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308 | (3) |
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311 | (14) |
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312 | (2) |
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What Is Transracial Adoption? |
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314 | (2) |
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316 | (1) |
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316 | (1) |
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317 | (1) |
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318 | (1) |
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The Controversy over Transracial Adoption |
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318 | (2) |
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320 | (1) |
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Providing Your Child with a Positive Ethnic Identity |
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321 | (1) |
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Adoption Policies and Practices |
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322 | (3) |
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325 | (20) |
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When to Have a Home Study |
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326 | (1) |
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327 | (4) |
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Selecting an Agency or Independent Investigator |
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331 | (1) |
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331 | (11) |
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Postplacement Supervisory Visits |
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342 | (3) |
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345 | (16) |
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346 | (2) |
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348 | (1) |
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Identified and Facilitated Adoption |
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349 | (1) |
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How to Keep Your Expenses to a Reasonable Level |
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349 | (1) |
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Paying for a Birth Mother's Living Expenses |
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350 | (1) |
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351 | (1) |
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352 | (1) |
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353 | (1) |
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353 | (1) |
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Adoption Assistance as an Employee Benefit |
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354 | (1) |
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355 | (2) |
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How to Take a Credit or Employer Benefit Exclusion |
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357 | (1) |
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Nonrecurring Expenses Subsidies |
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357 | (4) |
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Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies |
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361 | (34) |
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361 | (5) |
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366 | (1) |
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The Baby's Birth and Hospital Stay |
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367 | (5) |
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372 | (9) |
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Consequences of Prenatal Drug and Alcohol Exposure |
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381 | (8) |
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What Risks Can You Accept? |
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389 | (3) |
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How to Accept a Child with a Medical Condition |
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392 | (3) |
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Preparing for a Baby's Homecoming |
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395 | (4) |
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396 | (2) |
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398 | (1) |
Appendix: State-by-State Laws and Resources Pertaining to Adoption |
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Endnotes |
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Index |
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